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Implement preemption for extender with a verb and new interface

**What this PR does / why we need it**:

This is an alternative way of implementing #51656

**Which issue(s) this PR fixes** *(optional, in `fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...)` format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged)*:
Fixes #51656

**Special notes for your reviewer**:

We will also want to compare with #56296 to see which one is the best solution. See: https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/pull/56296#discussion_r163381235

cc @ravigadde @bsalamat 

**Release note**:

```release-note
Implement preemption for extender with a verb and new interface
```