Automatic merge from submit-queue (batch tested with PRs 45382, 45384, 44781, 45333, 45543)

[Federation] Provide updater timeout to instance rather than to Update()

This PR changes the federated updater to receive its timeout at construction rather than on every call to Update().  This provides a slight decrease in coupling by removing the need for the deletion handler to be provided the timeout along with the updater.

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