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Fix detach metric flake by not using exact equals

Also poll for detach value increase.

Fixes https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/issues/52871 

I have ran these tests for more than 3 hours in a tight loop and did not see it flake. The changes here include dropping exact equality test and making sure we poll for increase in detach metric count.


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