Automatic merge from submit-queue (batch tested with PRs 44798, 45537, 45448, 45432)

use apiservice.status to break apart controller and handling concerns

Still needs tests.

This starts breaking the handler and controller aspects of the aggregator by making use of status and conditions instead of actually running a specific check on demand.

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@luxas since you've been asking