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Backoff only when failed pod shows up

**What this PR does / why we need it**:
Upon introducing the backoff policy we started to delay sync runs for the job when it failed several times before. This leads to failed jobs not reporting status right away in cases that are not related to failed pods, eg. a successful run. This PR ensures the backoff is applied only when `updatePod` receives a failed pod.

**Which issue(s) this PR fixes** *(optional, in `fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...)` format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged)*:
Fixes #59918 #59527

/assign @janetkuo @kow3ns 

**Release note**:
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