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Honor --hostname-override, report compatible hostname addresses with cloud provider

xref #67714

7828e5d0 made cloud providers authoritative for the addresses reported on Node objects, so that the addresses used by the node (and requested as SANs in serving certs) could be verified via cloud provider metadata.

This had the effect of no longer reporting addresses of type Hostname for Node objects for some cloud providers. Cloud providers that have the instance hostname available in metadata should add a `type: Hostname` address to node status. This is being tracked in #67714

This PR does a couple other things to ease the transition to authoritative cloud providers:
* if `--hostname-override` is set on the kubelet, make the kubelet report that `Hostname` address. if it can't be verified via cloud-provider metadata (for cert approval, etc), the kubelet deployer is responsible for fixing the situation by adjusting the kubelet configuration (as they were in 1.11 and previously)
* if `--hostname-override` is not set, *and* the cloud provider didn't report a Hostname address, *and* the auto-detected hostname matches one of the addresses the cloud provider *did* report, make the kubelet report that as a Hostname address. That lets the addresses remain verifiable via cloud provider metadata, while still including a `Hostname` address whenever possible.

/sig node
/sig cloud-provider

/cc @mikedanese

fyi @hh

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