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apiserver:  pass a listener into genericapiserver bootstrapping 

**What this PR does / why we need it**:

>At the moment we pass a port via the options into the config. A zero port does not work because the loopback clients created during apiserver initialization need to know the port before. Passing a listener into the server instead would allow us to use a zero port beforehand and bootstrapping order should be fine.

**Which issue(s) this PR fixes** *(optional, in `fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...)` format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged)*:
Fixes #55784

**Special notes for your reviewer**:

**Release note**:

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